You Are Gonna Wanna Borrow This....
Hey Lover Babe!
(if you read this on social media - stay with me - I go into more detail on this email and it gets a little juicier!)
My hubby and I celebrated our 20 year me-demanding-you-be-my-boyfriend anniversary on Sunday. And you know I love a good analogy.
So much of what makes our relationship successful are the same things that has made my relationship with myself, my body and food (finally) successful.
Here are the THINGS, borrow accordingly:
❤️continually, consciously, choosing the relationship as a priority over other things that feel more urgent or easier to take care of.
🧡not throwing in the towel after a fight or mistake, you wouldn't quit on your marriage after a mistake, why would you do that with yourself or your relationship with food? This is a real commitment! All of these relationships do not have a finish line or an expiration date.
💛having fun with it, not taking it so seriously, like celebrating things like non-anniversaries and small wins in big ways! (even if you don't want to!)
💚quick recovery, don’t let mistakes linger or fester, I like to describe this as "fighting fast" in my marriage and with myself I describe it as "every moment can be a Monday morning".
💙 never look at each other or myself with “failing” eyes always loving eyes = unconditional love, when we strip away all the BS, what we are left with is LOVE, that is underneath it all, practice accessing it for yourself and for your partner
💜 schedule regular check ins - I do this with myself and with Brian, it is on the calendar! And when my brain offers, "I don't feel like it" I don't believe it. I know I don't feel like it is a dream stealer. So even if I don't feel like it feels really true, I still follow through on my calendar!
🤍 not expecting perfection and releasing the grip of unrealistic expectations, I try to take out the word should from all of my relationships. What if everything was unfolding just as it is supposed to? What if nothing has gone wrong here!?
Have the Best Day Ever,
Laura