a small shart (fart and poo mixed together)

Are you still shoulding on yourself? Even just a little? A little Shart here and there?

Seriously stop shoulding on yourself.

Even if you actually believe that you really should stop doing something.

Saying the word should to yourself will do the opposite thing you want it to in terms of habit change.

For example: Maybe you say to yourself: "I should know how to say no to the cake by now, what is wrong with me!?!"

Even if your really believe this, talking this way to yourself will not help you.

It will make you feel ashamed and ashamed will make you either over-restrict (which will then lead to over-eating) OR it will just lead straight to throwing in the towel and eating 6 pieces of cake.

So instead what if you thought: "This is something I want to work on, it is okay, I made a mistake, I can learn from this mistake. What can I learn? What do I want to do differently next time?"

Can you see how much more loving the second option is? The one without the should?

You can only make permanent change from love and curiosity.

Doing it from should and shame just plain won't work.

And my guess is you already have proof that it doesn't work. Most of us having been shoulding on ourselves for decades.

Today is the day you no longer say "should". Today is the day.

Make your resolution early.

And while you are at it stop shoulding on your friends and family. They don't want to be smelly either. AND it will make YOUR holiday season so much brighter when you just let the humans be.

The people are supposed to be just the way they are. Maybe even for our benefit and growth.